Hi and how are ya?! I had a lofty goal to blog once a week this year but apparently once a month is more my speed. Oops? I'd love to say I've been off somewhere exotic, but in reality I've been drowning in work, dealing with a frustrating knee injury (long story!), Marlox Group USA Inc. PU911221002 PUMA Unisex Bytes Digital Display AnalogNIB Sperry Boat Shoes Brown Leather Slip On Loafers Men's Game Fish Size 9.5 Mjetting off to Chicago for my brother's wedding, subsequently recovering for 2-6 weeks post my brother's wedding (how long do hangovers usually last? Asking for a friend!), etc. Normal things! I feel like I have one million ideas to write about, my brain is constantly tumbling over thoughts, but whenever I get a spare moment to sit at my computer, they fly away.
I'll capture them someday. Until then you can sit with growing anticipation for what brilliance I shall deliver.
Ok fine, I won't leave you totally hanging. Amid the working and the physical therapy and the peeing in an alleyway in downtown Chicago in a bridesmaid dress (oh like you've never peed in a city alley before), I have managed to find some time to sneak in a book or two. Or four,Florsheim Freedom Bike Toe Slip-On Loafer - Men's Size 7D - BrownSkechers Men's Palen Gadon OxfordGray11.5 M US if I'm being entirely upfront here.
So, without further ado: here are the four books I read in March of 2017. And YES I KNOW it is now essentially May 2017 so I'm falling wildly behind but did I not just list enough excuses for you?
My dog ate my blog. It wasn't my fault!
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Anyhoodle I had initially thought the party was much later than it actually was, Naot Fiord Clogs - Men's Size US:13 / EU:46, BrownKeen Ambler Hiking Shoes - Men's Size 11 - Brown/Orangeand Brian had made plans to host a poker night at our house, so I told him I'd make myself scarce so they could really bro out. I'd made plans to have dinner with a friend after the party, but she got held up at work so I figured if I could take myself to a cocktail mingle, I could certainly take myself out for a bite and a drink.
Also, like, how could the night get any worse?
By the grace of all that is holy, the remainder of the evening was a pure delight and I did not make any more scenes. Miracles happen! Instead, I cozied up at the bar at June, a chic little place in Cobble Hill, and ordered a glass of wine and a fancy Brussels sprout dish featuring "Parmesan whip" which turned out to be like, a cloud of Parmesan cheese and butter of some kind? I don't know, but it was magical and delicious, my mouth is watering thinking about it again. And the crown jewel atop this lovely dinner was my companion, Jami Attenberg's charming yet maddening new novel.
All Grown Up is structurally interesting, reading almost like a linked connection of short stories rather than a full novel, all building together to tell the life of a rather ordinary woman, Andrea, and through her story, explore family, addiction, sex, romance, ambition, art, the changing landscape of Brooklyn neighborhoods, friendship. It's slim, easy to read, and I found it wholly affecting.
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Yes! This book also reminded me a great deal of one of my all-time favorites, The Girl's Guide to Hunting and Fishing by Melissa Banks. So a real winner here, folks.
And did I cry in public? 3 for 3 baby.
Recommended for: um, what Angie said!
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Closing on a slim little volume from one of my favorite writers, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie,Robert Zur Men's Glove Slip On Loafers Black Size 9-1/2NEW USA MADE MEN'S TOTES BLACK GEOMETRIC ISOTONER RUBBER RAIN SHOES SZ L(9.5-11) who I had the opportunity to see give a talk a few weeks ago. It was an incredibly invigorating discussion on gender, race, pop culture, and literature and Chimamanda and I became instant besties, here is a picture of our budding friendship.
BFF. It's so fun how we're like this classic odd couple, you know? One of us is glamorous and brilliant and the other hasn't washed her hair in four days. And you can barely even tell from this picture which is which!
This book is a reprint of a letter she wrote to a friend, at the birth of her first child,Sanuk Men's Chiba Slip-On Sidewalk Surfers Loafers ShoesRARE!! John Varvatos Black Skull Driving Shoes 8.5 M . $175 after being asked for advice on raising feminists. Adichie admits she's not an expert on feminism or parenting, but still overs 15 ideas: teach them that gender roles are irrelevant, encourage them to read, teach girls not to worry so much about likeability. Her ideas aren't flawless, I'm sure, but I think she's starting interesting conversations about gender and feminism and as I look ahead to raising children of my own (like, far ahead, as previously stated, I just drank 5078 beers at my brother's wedding, don't get any fun ideas, close-readers in the crowd) I am a sponge for ideas on presenting teaching feminism to kids of both genders. I'm grateful to have this book in my life!
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And that'll be that! I have to admit in advance that there will be no Nonfiction Challenge Hott Read for April because someoneeee who shall not be named can't find her copy of The New Jim Crow and also decided that amid her busy schedule she needed to give herself a slight break on the heavy reading and just pick up a fun book or to and she's of course feeling guilty about failing the challenge but also, deep down, knows she made up the challenge and nobody cares so it's all fine, but she will continue to feel guilty nonetheless, because that is who she is.
Ok the end, have a GREAT final week of April and I promise to be back with more enthralling content lickity split. Or not. Who ever knows what I'll do!
These two photos were making the rounds on social media following the march and have been lingering heavy in my mind as I map out my action plans for the coming days. I have not been as active or as vocal as I could have been. There's that saying "put your money where your mouth is," but the problem is, I kind of need to put my mouth where my money is. I've happily given as much as I can financially to causes I believe in. But I have yet to march in a Black Lives Matter rally.$245 PETER MILLAR Seaside Washed Canvas Boat Shoes bisque orange MS17F01 SZ 10Nike Men's Blazer Chukka CS TC Size 10.5 I just voted in a mid-term election for the first time this past fall and mostly only so I could show off about it on Instagram. I do call my senator every time there was a mass shooting (so like, once a week), but I never really follow up, I just kind of check it off the list and move on. In high school and college I used to be so active in community engagement and then when I moved to New York I just kind of stopped. I'll do some outreach here and there but I've never made it a cornerstone of my life the way I used to and I'm ashamed of that.
I suppose I have Donald Trump - and Mike Pence, and Paul Ryan, and Betsy "Dolores Umbridge" Devos, and the whole motley, racist, misogynist, homophobic crew - to thank for ultimately being the straw that broke my back, for lighting the fire that's been simmering inside of me, untended, for all of these years. I'm fired the fuck up. And should I have been protesting years ago? PROBABLY. Could I have been better about being engaged with the community? Le Coq Sportif Deauville (1610708) Shoes Black White Gum Men's Size 8.5 -41 NEWMens Puma Disc Graphers Rock Shoe Size 13 Multi ColoredFOR SHEEZY. But is it too late to get started now? Is it too late to make a change? is it too late to apologize? No, Justin Bieber, it's never too late. Don't tell me what I can't do!
And I'm saying this both because it's like, a rah-rah, inspiring end to this blog post, but also, mostly because of accountability. Studies show that if you tell a people you'll do something - go on a diet, quit smoking, whatever - you may be more likely to actually go through with it. Converse CTAS Hi White Pack Sneakers Unisex White Gold Size 10.5 Mens/12.5 WomenRockport- Margin Oxfords, Men's Size 15 M, BlackAnd anecdotal data has shown that I, personally, am very motivated by a fear of letting people down or being considered a failure. And also by attention, ha. So I figured if I told all of the millions of people who read this blog (hey mom!) that I was going to try to become a better citizen, well, maybe I would.
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